Emotionally Caught Up

Hi Jazz,

         My boyfriend and I have been broken up for the last 2 months because he said that he didn't want to be exclusive. I was heart broken because I really do love him. We were together for 2 1/2 yrs ,but I caught him cheating on me one too many times. Finally we called it quits because he realized he couldn't commit. But, it seems like since we've been broken up he's been calling me more and wanting to hang out. He still tells me he loves me and I do see him sometimes, and one thing leads to another and I find myself back in bed with him. I know he's seeing other women, but every time we hookup we interact like we are still in a relationship, but once we part ways I don't hear from him for days. I find myself getting mad and caught up all over again. Uggghh, How do I stop this cycle?
                                                                                                                                                                                                         Emotionally Caught Up


Hey Emotionally Caught Up,

        This Sounds all too Familiar to me! I think Almost every Guy would Love to have the Perks of still Sleeping with there Once Girlfriend just without the Commitment!! Didn't you Break up bc you wanted to be Exclusive and Committed?! Now you're doing the Complete Opposite of what you Stand for! I know it's Not Easy to be apart from Someone you Love...But He's taking Advantage bc he knows you still Love him! Never go Backwards...only Forward.  You were Once his Girlfriend and now you're One of the Girls he's Hooking up with. For One, He'll Never Realize that He Lost a Good thing because he's Still Getting it! and there's Really No Need for him to even Consider getting Back together....since he still Gets to See you.  It Sounds Like He's got the Best of Both Worlds..You and The Freedom to Date whoever else he Wants. The way you Stop this Cycle is by Realizing that this Situation is Not Good Enough for You!! You are Girlfriend Material...Not a Jump Off!  You have to Stand by your Beliefs and if you want to be with Someone who wants to be in a Committed Relationship then be Patient and Trust that you'll have that....But Allowing him to Come and Go as he Pleases is Unacceptable!! I'm Not saying that Ex's can't Work it out and get Back Together,but Sleeping Together Randomly Definitely Won't get the Commitment Back! If he wants the Privileges he Had when the Two of you were Together than he Must be Ready to Commit..If Not, you Need to Tell him...You can't get Caught Up with his Selfish Ways Any Longer!