Dear Jazz,
I'm usually the one who gives the best advice but I need your help....I have serious feelings for a great guy who I didn't treat well in the past. We tried numerous times to make it work(him more than me) and NOW I realize how much I love and care for him and he's not hearing it...I know they say time heals all wounds but my heart STILL hurts....what do u do when u fall in love with one of your best friends and the relationship ends?
Letting Go
Hey Letting Go,
I feel your pain a broken heart is one of the deepest emotions to deal with... :( I myself know exactly what it feels like...Its an aching that hurts to the core of you. :( First we have to try to be realistic about the situation..He has put himself out there a few times and chances are..Now he's scared to trust you with his heart again. Where we go from here all depends on his reason for not trying to hear you..Is it because he has moved on mentally and emotionally?..Is he in a new relationship? I only ask those questions because if the answer is yes to either one I would say you might have to accept the fact that what once was... Can't be...BUT!! If you are communicating your feelings to him and his reason for not hearing you is just because he's scared to trust and build with you again..I would say if this is someone you really want to be with then you have to be patient with his healing process and him trusting and opening up to you again. You would actually have to be his friend first regardless.. And see where it goes from there, But if it seems like being in a relationship with you is something he can no longer see in his future than we truly have to start the healing process for your broken heart. If the two of you are truly friends you will be friends whether you're in a relationship or not. The good news is..You can still have this great guy in your life... But I think the first step to healing a broken heart is dealing with the reality of the situation and facing your emotions head on..And really believing that if this relationship was meant to be it will be..Like you said time heals all wounds.... Everyone's process is different. For me, once I know I've done everything in my power to fight for a love I want...I then put it in God's hands and Trust that If that person doesn't come back for me that there's a greater love that's going to make its way to me. If this person feels friendship is what's best for the two of you...Then go through the motions of one aspect of the relationship ending and when you get to a good place emotionally then you can work on the other aspect of your relationship...which is friendship...and friendship can last a lifetime :) But...I hope he realizes that he needs to be your Lover and Friend!
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