Girlfriend in Discomfort

Dear Jazz,

I've been dating this guy for a year now and everything is going good. Sometimes we hang out in groups with friends. It'll be some of his guy friends and some of my girlfriends. Since we've been all hanging out a lot I noticed that him and one of my girlfriends have become really cool. It's definitely platonic, but its starting to bother me because now they speak on the phone and it's starting to make me feel uncomfortable. I trust both of them but am I wrong for being bothered by this? I introduced them and I Know its just a friendship but it's a little too close for comfort. I definitely want to address it. Please help me out with this one! 

                                                                                      Girlfriend In Discomfort

Hey Girlfriend In Discomfort,

I think I would be uncomfortable too! If they weren't friends before the two of you started dating, I can see how that can get a little weird. Although, it's completely innocent...I agree with saying something about it. I would have a talk with my girlfriend first, as your girlfriend her loyalty should be to you and as a woman she should understand how that can make you feel.  I would explain to her that you're 100% comfortable with them being friends, but it makes you uncomfortable with the new dynamic of them speaking on the phone and them building their own personal friendship. Honestly speaking, this can get a little messy ...what if you're in an argument with your boyfriend or even with your girlfriend... You're not speaking to one but they're speaking all the time. that's how confusion starts! If your girlfriend understands where you're coming from, she can just pull back and keep her friendship with your boyfriend the way it was originally...in group atmospheres only. That way you don't even have to raise the issue with your guy..But if she doesn't understand (which I don't see why she wouldn't) then you have to say something to  him as well... Let him know that you think there should be boundaries as far as the way he interacts with your friends and that phone convo is outside of the boundaries for you. He should definitely understand where you're point of view because I'm sure he wouldn't like you on the phone with one of his friends! You are the common denominator between the two of them...So they shouldn't want their Girlfriend In Discomfort..Now should they!..They should be 100% comfortable with the way you feel :)