ARE YOU AN INSIGNIFICANT OTHER?!

(Insignificantly Dating??)

I've been talking to a lot of fabulous women about their dating lives and of course sharing about mine as well :)…and I've noticed a lot of us are dating with no real title.. most women I run across are saying that they've been dating their guy for some time now…they do all the things that could fall under a relationship, but there is no real obligation or commitment on the man's part.  I started thinking…What the hell is this all about?! ..What does it all mean?!…Its clearly not a jump off situation because we all know what that is!! :/...And it's more of a connection than just that…But its definitely not girlfriend status either…So what category do all these fabulous women fall under?!..and is it o.k to be in this category?!…So I thought about it some more and weighed the pros and cons of this limbo status… The pros are great dates, good conversation, comfortability, and great sex!! …so this could be good right?! lol…but the con is that there is no clear direction involved in this kind of relationship. All this hanging/dating can lead to absolutely no where! Especially if the man has no intention on ever progressing in the relationship…and chances are he's not going to give you the memo!… And I'm noticing that men are really winning by dating in this limbo status because they get all the perks of having a "Girlfriend" without having to be committed or consistent…But are we as women winning by being in this status?… Of course the answer will vary… Some women are completely comfortable with this style of dating because they are multi-dating too! ;)…But If you're looking to build with someone.. Pay attention to the details of the relationship!…Know what type of relationship you're signing up for…and most of all know the difference between being the Significant other and the Insignificant Other! ;) xo   

SIGNS TO LET YOU KNOW IF YOU'RE AN INSIGNIFICANT OTHER

1.  When your friends and family ask what your relationship status is with this person, you get uncomfortable because you don't even know what to call it! 

* And if you're unsure..Clearly it's because he's not making it known to you.. where the two of you stand!..and If a man wants you to be his girlfriend you'll be the first to know! ;)

2.  There's no expectation of when you'll see him again…You're accustomed to not having no expectation from him

3.  Although you might do a lot of "Boyfriend/Girlfriend" things together..When it comes down to the important stuff, Holidays, Family Gatherings, Hard Times..Its no guarantee they'll be there for you!

NOTE: IN NO WAY AM I SAYING THAT THE PERSON YOU ARE DATING DOESN'T CARE ABOUT YOU IF YOU FALL UNDER THE INSIGNIFICANT OTHER CATEGORY…JUST DON'T BE SURPRISED THAT IF SOMEONE ELSE BECOMES HIS SIGNIFICANT OTHER WHILE THE TWO OF YOU HAVE BEEN INSIGNIFICANTLY DATING!

sig·nif·i·cant oth·er

Noun:

A person with whom someone has an established romantic or sexual relationship. Key Word: Established! ;)

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Aquarius - Astrology of Love

Aquarius: january 20 - february 18

Aquarius and Aries:  This couple is great at getting along! Aries is enthusiastic while Aquarius woman is charming in every sense! Her way with words is such a turn on for her aggressive Aries man...but when they get in the bedroom they seem to fall short! Aries man expects more from his Aquarius! She doesn't cater to him the way he likes and the sheets instantly gets cold! Because they get along in other areas..if they can get on the same page sexually they have potential to work.

Aquarius and Taurus:  Aquarius woman takes pleasure is sex talk while her Taurus is a man of little words...he is more hands on. Her Taurus man needs to be reassured of her love and her patience just isn't there for this bull. He feels his Aquarius is too distant for the long haul!

Aquarius and Gemini: These two share the same curiosities in life! Creative Gemini mentally stimulates his Aquarius woman...His ideas turn her on! She considers that to be foreplay... By the time they get to the bedroom they are all worked up!  A great chemistry that can last forever!

Aquarius and Cancer:  Cancer man is attracted to Aquarians charm and social skills. She loves the affection and love her Cancer man gives her. Sexually, Cancer man gets really emotional where sex is more about the sensation for Aquarius. These two can have a comfortable relationship, but it would take the two of them to meet half way between emotion and sex.

Aquarius and Leo: Leo man is impressed with the way his Aquarius woman can work a room! She is intrigued by her Lions Energetic ways. They both look forward to hot and heavy sex, but they soon realize that their personalities are very different. After a short while they realize its a hot and cold relationship!

Aquarius and Virgo: Expressive Aquarius woman finds her Virgo man to be too reserved. She's looking for those words that are going to excite her. Her Virgo man moves too slow for his Aquarius. great as friends but not enough heat for a relationship.

Aquarius and Libra:  Aquarius is a professional talker while her Libra man is the perfect listener! Libra gives her the love and attention she needs and she encourages him and supports his desires. With sex they do have to put in more effort to keep the sparks going because their relationship can become more friendly and they need to be more than friends when it comes to the bedroom!

Aquarius and Scorpio:  The attraction is intense but the follow up isn't necessarily there! Aquarius is turned on by the details and the build up to sex while her Scorpion is a man of the moment. They don't really see eye to eye and the communication isn't there. It would take work for them to have a chance!

Aquarius and Sagittarius:  Easy going Sag man loves his well rounded Aquarius! They have a lot in common..and their communication is great whether they're talking about sports or sex! Sexually they can go the distance and a long relationship comes with ease!

Aquarius and Capricorn:  Capricorn man will need to step it up if he wants to keep his Aquarius' attention. He sits in the cut while she charms everyone in the room. This is definitely a turn on for him..but in order for him to win her he has to mentally stimulate her and she has to make him feel wanted!

Aquarius and Aquarius: Both independent and needing Space to explore, they still find  comfort in one another. A great friendship leads to a lasting love and sex talk and sex acts are always fulfilling! The chemistry is intense...this is a charming couple!

Aquarius and Pisces:  This duo is not ideal!  Aquarius woman is quick on her feet while pisces man takes his time. Pisces man likes to feel connected while his Aquarius can be detached. Sentimental Pisces becomes boring in the bedroom for Aquarius woman...She won't be so sensitive if there are no sparks!

Confused Love

I need am advise about this, i met this guy like 6 months ago when I went to Italy and I live in Austria. so i got to know him and I fell in love with him to the point that I always wanted to talk to him but when ever I call him sometimes he pick up and sometimes does not and when he is online on facebook he dosent write me except for when I write him then he replies. so I went back to Italy again to visit him , he showed me so much love that made me feel like he really loves me. so when I was leaving he drew a heart and a kiss on de glass of de bus that was taking me to the airport. so 1 day he post a song titled "love you tender" which he wrote him self on my wall , he told me to go and listen to it and told him what I thought. so days later I asked him if he meant what he drew on de glass of de bus the other day? he said yes he love me as his sister, he said he feel something 4 me but not love. and he ask me what I wanted him to do so I told him I want him to care 4 me like someone he has feelings 4 and he said he cant because he wont be helping matters and thats what happens when he fall in love with someone else? I don't know what to do because he is always sending me kisses. what do I do now that I love him so much?


                Confused Love





Hey Confused Love,

I feel your pain..when you have strong feelings for someone and more than anything you want them to feel the same way about you..It sounds like he does care about you but it also sounds like he's sending you mixed signals..I don't know how intimate the two of you are with one another...but if the two of you have kissed in an intimate way or have had sex...how can he possibly look at you like a sister...the song he sent to you is a song about romantic love...right?! ....But what it really comes down to is Communication....once you've told him how you feel and he decides that he doesnt want to be romantically involved...as much as it might hurt...you deserve to date a guy who is 100% clear that he wants the same thing out of a relationship that you want...he might have confused feelings for you...but until he knows what he feels for you...I think its in your best interest for you and your heart...to just be friends

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On The Dating Scene...Will Return Shortly! ;)

I Have To Move On Contract!!

When You Gotta Give Yourself Tough Love and Move On!!

Going Into 2011 Right!!

Sometimes it's really hard to move on from a dating situation because you want it to work so bad!.. Although, you know it's not the best thing for you, you can't seem to walk away! The more he rejects you the more you want to attempt to make it work or try to get to the bottom of why he's not that into you anymore.. You feel yourself going into a downward spiral emotionally over the rejection!!... This is when it's time for you to pull it together and make a commitment to yourself about what you will and will not allow yourself to go through emotionally for the love or attention of a man... Its time for some Tough Love!.... Contract Please!! 

Dear Me,

The reason why you're going to move forward from this situation is because its bringing too much emotional and mental confusion. Since you've been dealing with this person you have allowed him to consume your mind. You spend way too much time trying to figure him out, ways to impress him and ways to get his attention..It shouldn't be this hard!! Don't allow someone's lack of interest make you question your worth, beauty, and capabilities of having a good man. Do not allow the potential of what you think something "Could Be" make you feel like you have to hang in there or chase a man so that you don't miss out on an "Opportunity". Remember, your blessings are "God Given" and no one can take that away from you! If something is meant to be...it will be!  So with that being said...You will move forward...

* You will not chase him anymore

* You will not make him a daily project to focus on

* You will not be depressed over him because things didn't work

* You will accept that he's just not that into you...and that's o.k! :)

* You will not talk about this situation Allll Day with your girlfriends

* You will still have a positive attitude towards future dating

* And you will never again compromise your values, personality, or who you are as a person to win a man ...He needs to win you...Because you are the Prize! :)

PRINT, SIGN AND BELIEVE!! :)

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